Today I have started at the training at Co-Active Coaching Fundamentals in Oslo, and I am spending the weekend in Oslo attending this course. And yeah, we got homework. We are supposed to find three skills that we need to improve from a rich variety of coaching skills. And I think I am very clear about my weaknesses as a coach. A coach is a person who helps the client to find his way to whatever goal the client has. This meaning that the coach should be a person that challenge the clients thinking to get from where the client is today to a set goal in the future. My biggest challenge is that I often find myself as an instant problem solver. I hear you say you have a problem, let me present you with MY solution to this problem. The problem with the advising approach is that I present a solution that might not fit the client. Instead I should be more patience and try to help the client find a solution on their own terms, and find a way to keep the client accountable to this new found goal.
I don’t think that being an advisor in a coaching session needs to be negative, but being a coach I should always be aware of the clients’ needs and if they get stuck, ask for permission to provide a possible solution. – I also find it hard to know the borders between advising and challenging. What is the big difference really? Guess a challenge is more taking the client into accountability on their own terms, while advising is on my terms?
I really feel that coaching have transformed my life. Both being coached, and being able to coach other people to reach their potential.
As you understand, writing is for me a good way to reflect, and I hope to keep improving my coaching skills in the future. The class I am attending is step one of three to becoming CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach). – And yes that is a dream. I have been working with a coaching leadership style for about 5-6 years and had a lot of coaching experience. I have read plenty of books and I have shared a lot of knowledge on this blog. But when my potential clients ask me about my background, and I must reply: “I am an educated webmaster”, they would rather have me to design their webpage. And I am not doing this for the document at the end. I also get to meet equal minded people and learn a lot. As a coach you must have a curious mind and always keep learning – in order to be better prepared for that next client that walks in your door.
Well this is just a few thoughts from the hotel room in Oslo. Now it is time for a workout soon. I wish you all a great weekend.